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Free Love and Romance Tips Report:
How to Find and/or Keep a Lover
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Finding the right romantic partner with whom to experience
lifelong pleasures and romantic love is one of the most important
responsibilities of a person's life. Unplanned approaches diminish
one's chances of securing the best possible romantic love partner.
A person should remember that meeting a suitable partner to build
long-term love and happiness needs only one connection, one meeting,
one social function, one planned effort...and anytime could be that
one time. Until a person finds that right love partner, he or she
should never stop searching for the right person with whom to share
and build values, love, and happiness. To give up searching would be
to give up on a major part of life itself. Possibilities for contacting potential romantic love partners increase proportionately
with the number of planned, thought-out approaches made.
Still, a person must protect one's time by being selective and not
allowing valuable segments of life to be consumed by events and
people that waste time, retard personal growth, or work against
one's best interests.
In searching for a romantic-love partner, a person needs to be
free and forward in approaching potential partners. That includes
all approaches from a self-introduction to a bold pickup by either
the man or the woman. Many opportunities for discovering suitable
partners for romantic love are lost by people who fear what others
may think of them for approaching or trying to "pick up" people to
whom they are initially attracted. Even more opportunities are lost
through inaction caused by fear of rejection. Rejections are not
personal rebuffs, but actually serve as a valuable sorting process
that allows a person to quickly eliminate unpromising prospects with
a minimum loss of time.
Through fear of rejection, many people lose valuable opportunities
to discover romantic partners with whom the supreme value of life-
long pleasures and romantic love could be developed and shared all
their lives. Most rejections stem simply from unavailability. And
often rejection arises from the inadequacies within the person
doing the rejecting. Those who respond positively to one's initial,
natural approach often make the best prospects for romantic
partners.
People who value themselves and their happiness will place a high
priority on those activities that will improve their chances of
discovering the best-possible, most valuable, life-long romantic
partner. That value is far too important for leaving to random
chance, one must put its achievement under direct control. Many
people erroneously think seeking or picking up potential romantic
partners at social functions designed for that purpose (e.g.,
singles dances, clubs, introduction services, "Parents without
Partners", etc.) is degrading. But the opposite is true. When a
person senses loneliness, unhappiness, or artificialness of guests
at social gatherings, that person is often projecting his or her
own feelings of loneliness, unhappiness, or artificialness onto
other people who may not be that way at all. Feelings of social
incompetence seldom are caused by external events. Generally,
such feelings are caused by erroneous, negative views about one's
self. When a person becomes aware of those erroneous views, the
feelings of social incompetence usually diminish and often vanish.
Irrational fear is destructive whenever it prevents a person from
taking positive or needed action. Objective fear is a valuable
protection mechanism. Fortunately, the paralyzing effects of
irrational fear can be overcome with direct, conscious effort. For
example, if a person takes an action that he or she fears (if no
actual danger exists), that fear will dissipate. Irrational fears
can cause inaction that prevents deserving, productive people from
developing prosperity, happiness, and love. A fearlessness to live
is one of the most financially and emotionally rewarding character
traits that an honest, productive person can develop.
These three different types of judgement traps and errors, if undetected, can ruin potentially lifelong relationships:
1.) Erroneous or inadequate information to make a valid or accurate
judgement:
Everyone is subject to this error. But that does not preclude
certainty over issues and judgements. A person can be absolutely
certain if given sufficient facts to validly measure those facts
against the standards of objective reality. Since no one is
omniscient or infallible, everyone is subject to specific errors.
But that vulnerability to errors has no bearing on knowing or being
able to make moral judgements with certainty.
2.) Infatuation:
Infatuation is the focusing on a single attractive desirable
characteristic of another person and then proceeding to consider
the total person as that one attribute. Infatuation is not only an
unfair, restricting burden on the person being judged, but can
lead to long-range disillusionment and pain for the person making
the erroneous judgement.
3.) Reverse Infatuation:
This is perhaps the most subtle form of judgement error. Reverse
infatuation involves the focusing on a negative attribute in an
individual and then considering or viewing that whole person as
consisting entirely of that specific negative feature. This judgement error can be blinding, depriving, and unjust by obscuring
areas of self-earned values and worth in other individuals.
As an important note, the above infatuation-type errors are also
commonly made toward groups, things, and ideas. One must also
recognize that productive people are a complex, many-faceted profile of character traits. Usually a mixture of objectively
positive traits and some (often well hidden) negative traits. Fair
and objective judgements require the breaking down into as many
separate components as possible, the various character traits of
an individual. Once this breakdown has been accomplished, a more
clear, fair, and objective judgement can be made by weighing
specific positive traits against specific negative traits. Over
a person's life span, many personal values can change. Objective
moral values, on the other hand, are constant and never change.
A romantic love relationship has three basic segments:
1.) Fundamental Basis
2.) Man-Woman Relationship
3.) Future Potential
The fundamental basis is the starting point of a relationship and
is usually the initial cause of attraction between two partners.
Forming and building a fundamental basis is not a process of
creating, but one of discovering mutual values, ideas, and beliefs
already held. The fundamental basis is the similarity of both
partners' views of life and their underlying philosophical
premises. Unfortunately, one's fundamental basis is relatively
easy to fake. But faking one's fundamental self to attract a
partner is a disastrous error that will eventually be paid for in
lost love, lost time, reduced self-esteem, and diminished happiness, especially for the one doing the faking.
In order to establish a growing, long-term relationship, couples
must first identify and then be in agreement over the nature of
their man-woman relationship. Neo-Tech Pleasures and the Neo-Tech
Discovery identify the basis for man-woman relationships designed
to yield lifelong pleasures and happiness.
A vision of the future values, benefits, and happiness that a
growing romantic love relationship could produce is the ingredient
that continuously moves the relationship forward with motivation
and anticipation. The future potential of a love relationship is a
function of:
1.) The nature of the relationship.
2.) Each partner's rate and direction of character development.
3.) The amount of rational thought and effort each partner
continues to put into the relationship.
Two types of romantic love relationships exist:
1.) Working jointly toward major productive experiences and goals.
2.) Working separately toward major productive experiences and
goals.
Some relationships start hot and flaming, some start cool and conservatively. Some people try to get involved too quickly in deep
romantic relationships. The possible penalties of pressing deep
involvement too quickly include losing a potentially good romantic
partner or wasting a precious portion of one's life in an unsatisfactory relationship. The way a romantic relationship starts is
usually not important because romantic love evolves through growth
and development of mutual values. Therefore, any initial, honest
approach is good and normally does not determine the outcome. What
determines the success of a relationship is not the starting conditions, but is the direction of growth and the extent that
mutual values can be continually created.
By applying Neo-Tech Pleasures, a person increases his or her Life-Lifting Capacity, which means providing an environment that helps
other people discover and fulfill their own unrealized capacities
and potentials. Life-Lifting Capacity does not mean changing or
remolding another individual to suit one's personal standards.
The Neo-Tech Pleasures Discovery is one of the very few philosophies that fulfills the key role of philosophy.
The task of philosophy and the job of the philosopher is not to
obscure but to clarify reality, not to complicate but simplify
living, (i.e., not to further mystify but to progressively demystify the human mind. The philosopher's job is to provide human
beings with practical tools for accurately identifying and advantageously dealing with reality and nature. But almost all
philosophers throughout history have defaulted in their responsibility - failed miserably at their jobs. Thus, the key role of
philosophy has until today remained unrecognized and obscured to
all the populations of this world.
Few people can formulate integrated philosophical systems on their
own. Moreover, few individuals have the knowledge to reflect or
even identify neocheaters* and mystics**. Thus, many glib and
shallow philosophies about sex and love are easily conjured up,
and accepted by the public. But such pseudo philosophies are
generally jerry-rigged from specious slogans and myths promulgated as the truth by social "experts" and "authorities". Many
books on love and sex are also implicitly based on spurious
philosophies that sound "good" on the surface and promise happiness through a system whose actions contradict objective reality
by denying the nature of human beings.
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*Any intentional use of mysticism designed to create false
"realities", false authorities or illusions in order to extract
values from others....Neocheating is the technique for expropriating unearned money, power, respect, or love by using mysticism to
manipulate thinking defaults in others. Neocheaters expand their
usurpations by manipulating mystical illusions.
**Contrary to belief, mysticism, in the vast majority of instances,
has nothing to do with religion or the occult. Mystics are those
who attempt to evade or contradict objective reality through dishonesty, rationalizations, non sequiturs, emotions or mind-created
"truths" and "realities", in order to Neocheat. Mysticism
creates problems where problems need not exist. Mysticism is a
disease - a deadly epistemological disease that progressively
undermines one's ability to identify and integrate reality, to
think clearly, to produce values, to live and compete - to survive.
The symptoms of mysticism are dishonest communication, out-of-context assertions or attacks, use of non sequiturs, jumbled or
non-integrated thinking or speaking. As a result, one increasingly
lays responsibility for his or her own well-being onto others.
Mysticism is the only disease of consciousness.
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Without a conscious philosophical position, no firm base of
principles is available to guide the direction of a person's work,
life, or love relationship. Consciously or subconsciously, all
people make philosophical choices that determine the course of
their lives.
Two fundamental philosophical choices exist for human beings:
1.) A reality oriented, pro-life choice (Aristotelian), or
2.) A mystically oriented, anti-life choice (Platonistic). The
future of all humans and all societies are determined by those two
philosophical choices. All Neo-Tech Pleasures concepts are firmly
grounded in the Aristotelian camp.
The Neo-Tech Pleasures concepts integrate prosperity, love, and
reality with a person's physical, psychological, and intellectual
nature. By understanding and utilizing Neo-Tech pleasures, a person
can experience great satisfaction with guaranteed happiness...for
life. The Neo-Tech
Pleasures Discovery is a free ebook.
